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Hi folx! If you read Ask Allison #1, you know this is a space where I post questions asked to me anonymously and answer them. Thanks to those of you who've asked me questions this week! Dear Allison, What's your go-to toy recommendation and why? Looking to spice things up with my partner but not sure where to start! Sincerely, Too Many Options!!! Dear Too Many Options!!!, It sounds like you've got a good problem on your hands! I'll give you some categories to choose from, since I don't know exactly what you're looking for. Please note that I'm not sponsored by any toy company; these are curated from my experience as a coach and educator: Vibrators I love recommending CalExotic's Red Hot Spark to people with vulvas because it has many options for stimulation. Its shape can feel like a simulation of oral sex because the soft silicone tip can flick if you hold it in a certain way, or it can feel like a bullet vibrator with a very pinpointed sensation at the very tip, depending on the pressure you give behind it or the angle at which it touches the body. It has a wider base, which is good for body massage, but it is NOT safe for anal play because it doesn't have a flared base so please use this externally or vaginally ONLY. Dildos Depending on the size and shape you think you might want, Blush's Avant lineup has just about everything, and most of them are pride-colored, just for fun! They're made with a super-soft, patented silicone so they're sturdy, body-safe, and durable. They fit into most harnesses if you're interested in pegging, and can feel anywhere from heavy and filling to light and tantilizing. Some mimic human penises while others don't necessarily look human at all, if you're going for a more non-binary, non-conforming (to any race, species, etc.) type of vibe. They do run a bit high on price, but they're well worth the spend and will definitely last you. Strokers This category can get a bit sticky (pun absolutely intended) because most penis-owners are pretty particular about how they like their penis to be touched. I would recommend starting with something gentle, like the Tenga Egg strokers, then ramping it up if you or your partner are into this kind of stimulation. Because strokers aren't self-lubricating like vaginas, don't try to use them without lube of some sort. Most are very easily washable, so don't be too concerned about cleanup; just be sure to over-lube and err on the side of getting too much (because you can never really have way too much) and make sure you have excellent communication between you and your partner so you or they can tell the other how things are feeling. Anal Play Similar to the dildo recommendations, I would always recommend Blush's Avant lineup. They use the same silicone to make their anal toys, which come in a variety of shapes and sizes and colors. As with the strokers, use so much lube you run out (and then go get more!!) because the anus is NOT self-lubricating and you can do some real damage and cause some real pain that really is not fun to deal with if you don't use adequate lube. The anus is very very sensitive, so make sure to go super slowly, communicate with your partner, and use tactile skills like feeling if their or your sphincter is open and ready to receive more stimulation or not. Stay away from anal play if you or your partner is experiencing hemorrhoids or rectal tears. These can not only be horribly uncomfortable but can also lead to infection. Use graduating toys that go from very small sizes to larger ones and make sure anything you're using for anal play has a flared base and looks similar to a traffic cone. Silicone, glass, or metal are good materials to look for, as they are non-porous and generally waterproof, though you should double check the label to make sure. Metal and glass toys will make the user feel more full more quickly, so keep that in mind as well. Impact Play My all-time favorite impact play toy recommendation is a flogger. Similar to a whip, this toy has a small learning curve and comes in a variety of materials and sizes. It's known for its ability to sting a little, but not leave lasting marks like bruises or scratches. I don't tend to recommend paddles because they can really hurt if not used correctly and can cause some serious damage to the body, especially bruises and broken bones (seriously, being gentle with these things really matters) and nobody wants to end up on an episode of "Sex Sent Me to the ER". Bondage I would recommend wrist or ankle restraints before handcuffs or rope, especially for beginners in this area. They're much more comfortable than metal cuffs and don't tend to leave marks. They're also pretty easy to take on and off and come in a lot of different materials, like velvet, leather, faux fur, etc. which can be a really fun addition to your intimate life and help things go from good to EXXXTRA SPICY!!! They don't usually require a key, so they're a bit less risky than handcuffs. I hope this helps you with your sexplorations! I wish you all the best luck in finding all of the toys that give you exactly what you're looking for. ~Allison

Hi folx! If you read Ask Allison #1, you know this is a space where I post questions asked to me anonymously and answer them. Thanks to those of you who've asked me questions this week! Dear Allison, I identify as a straight cis male, but I think I'm curious about trying butt stuff. What's wrong with me? Sincerely, Scared Straight Dear Scared Straight, For everyone reading, "cis" is short for "cis-gender", which means you identify with the gender and genitals you were born with. Now, let's talk about butt stuff! First of all, enjoying anal stimulation doesn't define your sexuality. Being attracted to any other gender other than the opposite cis-gender of your own gender is generally classified as being "queer". Being attracted to the same gender as you is generally considered as being "gay". There are many exceptions to this, though. The male body has something which you've probably heard of called the prostate gland. This is a walnut-sized part of the male anatomy that sits in the pelvis and can be reached (and stimulated) through the anus. Receiving touch can be really pleasurable for a lot of people who identify as men, but doesn't make them "gay" or not straight. In fact, a lot of men like stimulation on their penis as well as their prostate - it can enhance orgasm exponentially for some! So, all of this is to say that absolutely nothing is wrong with you. You were simply built with a pleasure spot that's only reachable through your bum-hole, so if you want to know what it's like to experiment with that, there's really only one way to go: up! Now, here's a word of caution on anal play: GO. SLOW. For the love of all things good (including your booty), please don't shove things up there if they don't want to go yet. And please start small. A finger wrapped in a condom works great. Then you can add another until you need to take it slower again. That leads me to... USE. LUBE. The anus, unlike the vagina, does NOT have its own lubricant and therefore is not slippery enough to provide adequate lubrication for penetration or any other kind of anal fun, for that matter. Do you and your bum a favor and get some lube, especially one that's formulated for anal play. Make sure you're using the right lube formula (like water-based) that is safe for the types of toys you're using. Remember that like degrades like, so don't use silicone-based lube on silicone toys or oil-based lube on latex condoms. Which brings me to... USE. CONDOMS. The anus, also unlike the vagina, has very thin walls and doesn't have its own self-cleaning mechanisms to defend against infections. This is just one of the other multitude of reasons it's an excellent idea to use lube, but it's an even better idea to use condoms. Condoms, when used correctly, can be up to 99% effective at preventing STIs, and some of the scariest ones at that like HIV/AIDS, HPV, and others. And, if you happen to run into a "chocolate surprise", the toys (or penis/es) you're using won't end up chocolate-flavored as well. RELAX!!! Your anus is a bundle of super-tight muscles for a very good reason. Try taking some deep breaths and play with the external parts before trying to insert anything. Your body needs to know that that kind of touch is safe and, if you want to go further, welcomed (eventually). Just take your time and try not to set expectations for yourself, or a partner, if you're not flying solo. Do not ever. EVER. EVER!!!! use toys without a "flared" base. They CAN and WILL get sucked into your body and you will have to take a very embarrassing trip to the ER to get them removed very uncomfortably, both emotionally and physically. Just stick to toys that are meant to go up there and you'll be fine, as long as they're made of body-safe material like silicone, metal, or glass. Heavy = full. Toys that are made of metal or glass will make you feel more full more quickly, so especially take it slower with these guys and don't ever forget your lube! Lube way more than you think, too. Get it everywhere. I hope this information has been helpful! As always, feel free to get in touch with me with any questions. Good luck with your sexpeditions! ~Allison

Hey, y'all! If you missed out on the last one, this is your reminder to get tickets for my workshop on September 27th, 2024! Find all the details below! When: September 27th, 2024, time TBD Where: Mystique Lingerie 2700 S College Ave Suite 165 Fort Collins, CO 80525 What it's about: This workshop will cover what to do when you feel like the spark you had isn't quite as strong. Feeling like a spark has dwindled is an extraordinarily common challenge, and not a lot of folx know where to turn when it starts to happen because it can feel really overwhelming and scary, especially if you've been in a long-term relationship/marriage and noticed things just aren't quite as spicy as they once were. We'll learn about some different communication tactics to help get some convos facilitated, talk about some tips and tricks to use at home (hint: it involves getting naked together!), and do some brief anatomy lessons to make sure you're reaching all the right places when you go spelunking. As with all of my workshops, this is a safe space where anyone of all genders, ethnicities, ages, backgrounds, races, relationship statuses, and cultures can come together and learn about their sexualities as they pertain to the kink world. If you are under 16 years old, please bring an adult with you who will act as your parent or guardian. Here's a link to get tickets! https://www.mystiquelingeriefoco.com/products/rediscovering-desire-pleasure If you have any questions, please reach out to me! I hope to see you all there! ~Allison

Workshops Workshops are group-based learning conversations based around a specific topic. All workshops are open to everyone, regardless of gender expression, gender identity, gender assigned at birth, sexual orientation, race, ethnicity, or religious background. All workshops are also open to all ages - I recommend youngsters come along as well, at parent/guardian discretion. Workshops do not include any nudity or sexual acts. ​ *I am not sponsored by any toy or supplies comp any. I bring materials I have heard raving reviews on and done research for in order to best serve you the variety of toys and materials that exist.* Upcoming Workshops ​ Pre- and Postpartum Intimacy With Julianne Curtis, doula with 20+ years experience January 17th, 2025 6:30-8:30pm Awakening Boutique, Fort Collins Location 112 E Olive Street, Fort Collins, CO, 80525 ​ Topics: -Inviting intimacy into your life during and after baby -Leaning into self-care -Learning about yourself and how you experience joys and pleasures with the changes that come with pregnancy -How your partner(s) can help you and get what they need ​ Detox Your Intimacy With Lisa Broberg, functional RN January 23rd, 2025 6:30-8pm **VIRTUAL** ​ Topics: -Hormone regulation with diet and healthy living -How detox-ing can allow for more pleasure -The effects that healthy living has on intimacy -Whole-body wellness = whole-body pleasure ​ Anatomy of Pleasure With Julie Wallace, PT, DPT, CLT February 13th, 2025 Time and Location TBD ​ Topics: -Unlocking your anatomy to experience more pleasure -Learning how to pleasure partners -Learning how to disconnect from work stress, family stress, etc. and slip into bliss both mentally and physically ​ Finance and Intimacy With Krista Fleck, Financial Specialist Date, Time, and Location TBD ​ Topics: -Empowering individuals through financial freedom -How financial freedom can create sexual freedom -Managing finances, lowering financial and emotional stress = more capacity for pleasure! ​ BDSM 101 SERIES: B ondage With Charmaine Stattman ​ Topics: -Rope-tying art forms like Shibari -Why humans enjoy bondage, especially surrounding sex -What bondage can do for you and your pleasure -Communication and consent basics for BDSM ​ ​ BDSM 101 SERIES: D ominance/Submission With Charmaine Stattman ​ Topics: -How-to guide to in-depth, but beginner-friendly role-playing and power play -How mental kink (such as role-playing, power play, dominance/submission) impacts your pleasure -Communication and consent basics for BDSM ​ BDSM 101 SERIES: S adism With Charmaine Stattman ​ Topics: -How to give and take control -Learning about if/how you experience others' pleasure in pain -Communication and consent basics for BDSM -How to stay safe while experimenting ​ BDSM 101 SERIES: M asochism With Charmaine Stattman ​ Topics: -How to feel in control while relinquishing control -Learning about if/how you experience pleasure in pain -Communication and consent basics for BDSM -How to stay safe while experimenting ​ Trauma-Informed Intimacy With Erin Berry, Relationship & Sex Coach ​ Topics: -Self-care both in and out of relationships -Inviting gentleness into intimacy -Best practices for learning and respecting your boundaries ​ Emotional Baggage and Intimacy With Mandy Garcia, energy healer ​ Topics: -How to recognize and release stuck baggage -How to heal from stuck emotions around intimacy -Finding your capacity for pleasure while breaking down your own walls Past Workshops For Your Pleasure Saturday, November 18th, 2023 1-4pm Althea Center for Engaged Spirituality, Historic Library ​ Topics: -Learning about your intimacy style through hands-on demos -Fostering intimacy and connection -Tips and tricks for metamorphosing pleasure, passion, and purpose ​ Crazy Little Thing Called Love Sunday, February 11th, 2024 1-4pm Boulder Public Library, Main Branch, Boulder Creek Room ​ Topics: -Learn about your intimacy style as well as your partner's -Foster connection in relationships -Find your magic and reignite the spark -Tips and tricks to take home and try out ​ BDSM 101 March 26th, 2024 6-8pm Awakening Boutique Fort Collins, CO ​ Topics: -Beginner-friendly education around restraint, sensation play, and impact play -Sensation play demo -Hands-on rope-tying lesson -Hands-on sensation and impact play lessons ​ ​ BDSM 101 Thursday, August 22nd, 2024 6-8pm Mystique Lingerie ​ ​ Topics: -Beginner-friendly education around restraint, sensation play, and impact play -Sensation play demo -Hands-on rope-tying lesson -Hands-on sensation and impact play lessons ​ Mindful Sex Tuesday, September 10th, 2024 6:30-8:30pm Awakening Boutique, Denver Location ​ ​ Topics: -Understanding the mind-body connection to increase desire and pleasure -Finding ways to "turn off" the unwanted parts of our thoughts and "turn on" the thoughts that increase intimacy and pleasure -Create mental spaces that allow for feeling more free and welcoming safety and calmness into the bedroom (or kitchen, bathroom, living room, etc.) ​ ​ Mindful Sex Thursday, September 19th, 2024 6:30-8:30pm Awakening Boutique, Fort Collins Location ​ ​ ​ Topics: -Understanding the mind-body connection to increase desire and pleasure -Finding ways to "turn off" the unwanted parts of our thoughts and "turn on" the thoughts that increase intimacy and pleasure -Create mental spaces that allow for feeling more free and welcoming safety and calmness into the bedroom (or kitchen, bathroom, living room, etc.) ​ Rediscovering Desire & Pleasure Friday, September 27th, 2024 Mystique Lingerie ​ ​ Topics: -Enhancing connection between partners -Reigniting a spark that's not as strong as it once was -Learning ways to communicate needs and wants ​ BDSM 101 October 22nd, 2024 8:30-8:30pm Awakening Boutique, Fort Collins Location 112 E Olive Street, Fort Collins, CO, 80525 ​ Topics: -Beginner-friendly education around restraint, sensation play, and impact play -Sensation play demo -Hands-on rope-tying lesson -Hands-on sensation and impact play lessons ​ Mindful Sex November 12th, 2024 6:30-8pm Awakening Boutique​, Fort Collins Location 112 E Olive Street, Fort Collins, CO, 80525 ​ Topics: -Understanding the mind-body connection to increase desire and pleasure -Finding ways to "turn off" the unwanted parts of our thoughts and "turn on" the thoughts that increase intimacy and pleasure -Create mental spaces that allow for feeling more free and welcoming safety and calmness into the bedroom (or kitchen, bathroom, living room, etc.) If you'd like to host or schedule a workshop for a priva te event, please fill out the contact form at the bottom of any page. Thank you! Click Here to Learn More About 101s 101s 101s are beginner-level workshops intended to help you get your feet (and other sensitive body parts) wet and learn all about the basics for each topic. They are hands-on, group workshops in which you get to touch different toys and get a feel for whether or not you might be interested in giving them a try. All workshops are open to everyone, regardless of gender expression, gender identity, gender assigned at birth, sexual orientation, race, ethnicity, or religious background. They are labeled with physical genital names to give you an idea of the types of toys and mechanics we will focus on in that particular workshop, and are not intended to be limiting for this reason. If you or your partner want to discover more about a different type of genitalia that you or your partner may or may not have, I encourage you to do so by signing up for the respective workshop. All workshops are a judgment-free zone with no exceptions. Sextracurricular Activities Designed to enhance the sex you already are having, these will give you the confidence boost you've been looking for as well as a focus on the mind-body connection. Click the button to learn more! Click Me! Sexercises Sexercises focus on movement and somatic sensations, learning about how your body and mind work together to create the most pleasure for you! Click the button below to learn more! Click Me! Parties Looking for something different? Click the button below to learn about how I can help you spice up your party and create an unforgettable experience for you and your guests! Click Me!

Hi, I'm Allison. I'm so excited you're here! Scroll down! Click Here to Learn About Free Sessions! About Me Allison Keller, B.S., B.A. She/her/hers Accepting, welcoming, passionate I help people learn about how they can have the best sex possible for them, connect with partners, and feel their best through education and pleasure-centered somatic work. I became a coach because I live for my “Ah-Ha!” moments and I want everyone to be able to experience them. Some people are still finding the courage and confidence to be capable of bringing those moments to fruition. And some people give up entirely on allowing themselves to find actualization and quit before they can discover the magic that inherently lives inside them, waiting to be ignited. I want to change that! That's why I want to accompany people on their journey to ignition and discovery, help to tackle challenges, and find their magic. I am inherently open-minded, accepting, non-judgemental, optimistic, and always ready to be challenged. I hold myself to the highest standards of honesty and accountability as core moral values and I strive to become the best version of myself every single day. I let the positivity and joie de vivre guide me and set the pattern for my work as a coach. About Me Whether you’re here to discover parts of yourself, discover more magic in your relationships, metamorphose your sex life, discover more passion, love yourself and your body, or to discover the magic of sex toys and different kinds of sex, or anything else, you’ve come to the right place. ​ Find and embrace your sexy self. Become magical. Become Sextraordinary! Sin-spirations As a peer educator through a volunteer organization called CREWS, I have discovered my passion for sex education that focuses on non-judgemental, fact-based, peer-to-peer conversations and the impact a healthy and safe sex life can have, especially for youth. If you want to learn more about how I found my passion in sex coaching, check out the About tab at the top of the page. Learn More About Allison A Little Bit of (Cunni)Lingo Sex -A term used to describe a sexual act such as intercourse, fellatio, and even masturbation. In the common English vernacular, “sex” is often referring to sexual intercourse, where one person inserts a penis into a vagina or anus. I want to broaden the way we think about sex, so I use the term much more liberally and to describe the many forms of sexual intimacy and pleasure humans can experience. On this site, in conversations, and in workshops, you will hear me using words you may be unfamiliar with. There is a small dictionary below that will explain these words and their definitions. I use a variety of terms because I want everyone to feel accepted, no matter what they look, feel like, or identify as. Erotic -A term used to describe sensations that bring joy and pleasure, not inherently sexual in nature. Another common English vernacular usage of this word is in terms of something that is sexual or pornographic. “Erotic” can actually mean something that brings pleasure to the senses, so I want to use it as such and begin to de-sexualize the way we think about pleasure. Pleasure-centered somatic work -I center my work around the experience of pleasure, meaning the sensation of enjoyment or gratification. Somatic refers to the body, and I center my work around bringing the most pleasure to the whole body as much as possible. Vulva -A term used to describe all of the external female genitalia (labia majora and minora or lips, clitoris, and opening of the vagina). Note that this is distinctly a different part of the body than the vagina itself, a common linguistic mistake. Services One-on-One Sessions A one-hour session with just me and you where we talk about all things sex, sexuality, etc. and get you where you want to be. These sessions do not include nudity or sexual acts. Workshops Click Here to See Upcoming Workshops! Group-based learning conversations based around a specific topic. All workshops are open to everyone, regardless of gender expression, gender identity, gender assigned at birth, sexual orientation, race, ethnicity, or religious background. All workshops are open to all ages - I recommend youngsters come along as well, at parent/guardian discretion. ​Workshops do not include any nudity or sexual acts. 101s Toys 101​ Bondage 101 Communication 101 Safer Sex 101 Sextracurricular Activities Mindful Sex Workshop​ Pleasure-Focused Sex Workshop Orgasm Du Jour Workshop Sexercises Yoga For Sex ​ Couples Sessions A one-hour session with me, you, and your partner(s) where we talk about all things sex, sexuality, etc. and get you all where you want to be. These sessions do not include nudity or sexual acts. Parties If you’re looking for a sexy spice to add to your party, give me a call! For one to two hours, I’ll come to your party with my Bag O’ Goodies (hint: there’s A LOT of sex toys in there!) and you and your party-goers can sit back, relax, and learn a bit more about those weird things you’ve been seeing on Instagram but have no idea how they work. Like my workshops, these events are designed to be a hands-on learning experience where you get to touch and interact with all different types of toys. I offer Bags O’ Goodies for people with vulvas, people with penises, or a mix - just indicate which Bag O’ Goodies you want to show up and I’ll make it happen! ​ Looking for something other than toys at your party? Look no further! If you’d prefer, I can bring my other Bag O’ Goodies (hint: there’s A LOT of kinky stuff in there!) full of handcuffs, ropes, chains, blindfolds, whips, paddles, riding crops, etc. that you can play with and learn all about how to whip yourself and/or partner(s) into shape for the experience of your life! Book a Session! Non-Comprehensive List of Services Services Finding pleasure (Re)Discovering and increasing desire Learning about your body and its functions Learning about your sexuality Healing from injury, procedures, or illnesses Prostatectomy ​ Giving birth Vaginismus Vasectomy Hysterectomy Others Education about sex toys, kinks, bondage, etc. De-stigmatizing sex, sexuality, and intimacy Soon-to-be-married and newly wed sex coaching Teen/tween sex and sexuality coaching and education Intersex, asexual, gay, bisexual, pansexual, transgender (LGBTQIA+) topics, education, and coaching And so much more! “The day you were born, your body was a cause for celebration, for love without condition, and that’s just as true today as it was then.” Emily Nagoski, Ph.D. Let's Talk

What Is Sex Coaching? Sex coaches offer clients a safe space to discuss extremely personal topics like sex, sexuality, masturbation, fantasies, etc. As a sex coach, I guide clients to where they want to be in their sex life using educational techniques and facts as well as encouragement, acceptance, transparency, and open-minded discussions. This journey can be difficult for a lot of people to face on their own, and that’s the best part about having your own sex coach: you’re never on your own! I’ll be right beside you, helping you build your self-efficacy and self-confidence to get youto where you want to be. A Sextraordinary Session A typical session with me can include a wide variety of topics, discussions, and somatic work. You might find yourself beginning the session with asking a sex question, like “How does a rabbit vibrator actually work?”, and we will use that as our building block. To answer most questions like this, I love my clients to be able to touch and interact with toys, objects, somatic sensations, or body movements in an educative way instead of a lecture hall format. Typically, I give clients ample time to get to know toys while explaining the mechanisms behind why they feel the way they do. It is important to note that this does not include clients using the toys on their genitals during our sessions, though they are encouraged to go home and purchase their own if they feel called to do so. My sessions do not include any form of nudity or sexual acts. Asking For A Friend... Some of the main questions we will center our sessions around are: - How can I bring myself more pleasure and fulfillment in my sex life? - What else does my sexuality have to offer me? - What is already inside of me that I can pull out to make life tastier? ​ Your personal growth and development are always the main focus. I accompany you, step-by-step to discuss, implement, and reach your goals as you enjoy the journey along the way. Hot Messes I believe that every human is a unique summation of wonderful, scary, beautiful, unpredictable, messy, amazing qualities. My sessions are, therefore, hardly uniform in concept - my aim is to discover a program that works best for you, with you, drawing from my background in psychology, ethnic studies, peer education, motivational interviewing, and other skills I have been fostering for several years. I use motivational interviewing and active listening as my main pillars, as well as facilitative and socratic discussions where you are in control and I’m in the coach’s chair, cheering you on and offering advice along the way.