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  • Upcoming Workshop Announcement!

    Hello again, world, and lovely people in it! This is an official announcement that I have a workshop on the books! Here are the quick deets: -When: August 22nd, 2024, 6-8pm -Where: Mystique Lingerie, 2700 S College Ave, Suite 165, Fort Collins, CO, 80525 -What it's about: The workshop title, BDSM 101, kind of says it all, except for what it doesn't say which is that I'll be educating folx about how they can explore their desires in this beginner-friendly, hands-on, experiential workshop! If you're looking for a safe space where you can learn about how to do those things you've always wanted to do but never had the courage to type into your Google search bar (on Private Browsing Mode, of course), then this is the place for you! Read on for more info... Info, etc.: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/bdsm-101-a-beginners-guide-to-knk-tickets-923538427297 What you'll get at the workshop: -Hands-on (and pants-on) sensory play with you and/or your partner(s) -Demos on how to tie ropes, use handcuffs, paddles, chains, whips, floggers, feathers, and more! -A 101-style education on cultivating pleasure, desire, and communication around BDSM, sensation play, restraints, and impact play What you'll take home: -Tips & tricks for how to cultivate desires, communicate those to your partner(s), and shed the shame you've (potentially) felt about your desires -Knowledge about how to find your magic, rediscover that spark (or an entirely new spark!), and ways to open up not only to others but to yourself as well -FREE STUFF!!! I can't wait to see you there! Remember that all of my workshops are open to all ages (and if you're under 16, please bring a parent or guardian along for the ride), sexualities, genders, gender expressions, ethnicities, nationalities, backgrounds, parents, parents-to-be, single folx, monogamous folx, poly and non-monogamous folx, saved, searching, and anyone else. Just please don't bring your fur babies :) As always, get in touch with me if you have questions about ANYTHING!! See you on the other side!

  • Ask Allison #6!

    Hi folx! If you read Ask Allison #1, you know this is a space where I post questions asked to me anonymously and answer them. Thanks to those of you who've asked me questions this week! Dear Allison, Recently, my partner and I have been trying some new things in the bedroom, and she seems really into them, but I don’t feel like the new stuff is doing as much for me as what we did before. More specifically, she’s really into tying me up and I just don’t feel safe doing that, plus it’s not really a turn-on for me. What should I do? Sincerely, Not So Knotty Dear Not So Knotty, It sounds like you and your partner have some mismatched kinks and/or desires, which is certainly not a bad thing. I admire your willingness to try new things, though, and I implore you to continue with that! When trying new things, it’s important to remember a few things: 1. Communication Since every person is so unique with their desires, it’s highly likely that you and your partner want some different things during sex, and that’s totally OK! When communicating, be sure to stay open-minded and listen to your partner as well as express your desires in ways that make you and your partner feel safe. For example, it’ll probably go over much better if you say “I’d really be into trying this. What do you think?” instead of “Let’s try this because I want to.” This way, you’re both equally in control of what happens next. Just remember that if they say “no, thanks”, they aren’t saying “no, thanks” to you as a person - it might just require some more discussion. 2. Consent As with anything, make sure you have an enthusiastic, verbal, sober “yes” from your partner (and from yourself!) before trying new things. You can even make a consent form for you both to fill out that clearly outlines what you are and are not willing to do on paper if any questions arise in the future. Note that you can change the document at any time to reflect your feelings and it is NOT legally binding unless you hire a lawyer. 3. Safe words Establishing a clear exit strategy can be the make-or-break moment for someone feeling a little unsure about trying new things. Make sure to communicate all safe words and gestures before anything happens and do it clearly so there aren’t any miscommunications. These can be a system like “red, yellow, or green lights”, red being stop immediately, yellow being you’re unsure but keep going, and green being a full-on “this is AWESOME!!”. Make them personal to you and have fun with it! If you feel you just aren’t into what your partner is into, it’s probably time to have a discussion with her to see what is negotiable, how she can fill desires you might not want to be a part of if she needs that, and how you can continue to be satisfied with your sex life in the process of all of this. Keep in mind that sex is usually a two-way street, and for it to be wonderful, amazing, etc., all parties should feel respected, listened to, and satisfied, which can take some work. If you’re prepared for that, then jump in and live your best life, exploring all kinds of different things! As a side note, if you’re feeling unsure about how to get into trying kinky things, check out my upcoming workshop, BDSM 101. You can find it on my website under the “Workshops” tab, or just save the date: August 22nd, 2024, 6-8pm Mystique Lingerie 2700 S College Ave, Fort Collins, CO, 80525 I hope this helps you discover more about your partner and about yourself! This is a journey for all of us and I hope you’re enjoying yours so far. Good luck! Sincerely, Allison

  • Ask Allison #5!

    Hi folx! If you read Ask Allison #1, you know this is a space where I post questions asked to me anonymously and answer them. Thanks to those of you who've asked me questions this week! Dear Allison, Is bacterial vaginosis an STI? Does their positive test mean my partner is cheating on me? Can it be transmitted between partners? What should I do? Sincerely, Vagino-Sis Hey Vagino-Sis, Thank you for your questions! These are so very important. So, let's start with the first one. -Is bacterial vaginosis (BV) an STI? Officially, no. It's not considered an STI for reasons I'm not quite sure about - I'll answer your next questions and you'll see why. -Does their positive test mean my partner is cheating on me? No, it doesn't mean they are cheating on you. Though it's not impossible. The best thing you can do is have an open, honest conversation with them and be as non-judgmental as possible. Remember that any positive result can be scary for anyone, regardless of the infection/disease/condition and how they contracted it. -Can it be transmitted between partners? Yes, if both partners have a vulva and vagina. BV is a bacterial overgrowth of good bacteria in the vagina. Usually, BV is caused by an imbalance in pH. The vagina is naturally acidic to protect it from infection, but sometimes, this is thrown off by a number of things: -Rough sex acts that result in tears, wounds, etc. of the vulva and/or vagina -Too much washing down there -Washing with a scented (or not-well-tolerated) soap or wash -Vaginal douching -Shaving (sometimes razors can irritate) So, if both you and your partner have a vagina, it's best to abstain from ANY sexual acts until they're finished with their treatment completely. This is because the vagina needs time to heal after an infection. BV can be recurrent, so you'll need to take small but important precautions to ensure it doesn't interfere any further with your sex life. These include: -Staying away from any scented washes or any soap in general - the vagina is a self-cleaning oven and just needs a little water on the vulva to keep it clean. Don't overdo it!!! -Washing your hands before sexual acts and after with warm water and soap for at least 20 seconds. Make sure to get under your fingernails, too! Stuff likes to hide there :) -Don't douche. EVER. -Drink plenty of water -Urinate after sex acts -If you notice any tears, pain, or blood after sex, be sure to take a quick rinse in warm water right after and consult your physician, OB/GYN, etc. -Use condoms of all kinds and extra lube I hope this helps! Don't forget to stay hydrated, wash ya hands, and stay safe out there! Best of luck! ~Allison

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  • Allison's Story | Sextraordinary Coach

    Learning By Heart I graduated from Colorado State University (CSU) with a B.S. in Psychology and a B.A. in Ethnic Studies. Along the way, I encountered a peer education group called Creating Respect, Educating Wellness (by and for) Students (or CREWS) and found my true passion for helping others discover how they can be less intimidated about talking about, engaging in, or learning about sexual activities. I became a certified peer educator through a program offered at CSU and I have been talking with students about safer sex ever since! Learn More About My Passion and Background That's cool, but what other hobbies & passions do you have? Although talking about sex and pleasure is my ultimate passion, I have multiple hobbies that keep my life balance in check. These include (but are not limited to) socializing with any dogs, particularly my own, hiking, being in nature, knitting, singing, cooking, learning new languages, and traveling. I lived in Switzerland for a year when I was 5 and I frequent the land of bread, wine, and cheese every year to be with friends and family and enjoy life’s simpler pleasures such as floating down the Rhein River on a hot summer day and meditating on the complexities of a crusty bread or salty cheese. Chocolate is my one, true love and I find myself never having enough, though I buy skads with every visit to the store.​ Navigating through my ADHD led me to discover that knitting holds multiple benefits for me, including stress relief, a way to keep movement in my body when paying attention (it got me through 95% of my college courses!) and allows me to focus when my mind wants to wander. It's something I love to do in my free time as well, and I intend to keep teaching friends and family how to create knitted wonders the same way my grandmother taught me when I was 8 years old, sitting on her lap, trying not to stab myself repeatedly with the needles. Music has also always been a passion of mine - I have a professional music career as a soloist as well as a small vocal coaching studio, and I taught classes at the Community College of Aurora as well. I found my love for Zimbabwean music when I was 7, and haven't put down the marimba mallets or hosho (traditional shakers) yet! It All Started When... At 2 years old, I asked my mother what a tampon was, allowing my curiosity to guide me. I found my proclivity through my undergraduate years, one day realizing how many friends of mine had come to me for sex advice. When I became a part of the CREWS family, it solidified my inkling that I needed to be in an environment where I could talk with others about their lives as sexual beings. My propensity to educate and myth-bust came from an extremely personal and traumatic situation in which I found out how little I had been educated in my current social climate around sex and sexuality. I was scared, had no idea where to turn for resources or the help I needed, and I wondered how many others had felt this same way. From that day on, I decided I never wanted anyone to ever feel the fear I felt from a lack of knowledge and conversation and committed myself to a future of helping educate as many as possible so that fear wouldn't exist anymore - only facts and resources. Certifications ​Public Health Bachelor's of Science, Psychology - Colorado State University Bachelor's of Arts, Ethnic Studies - Colorado State University Peer Educator Certification - Colorado State University via NASPA Music Instructor at Community College of Aurora Vocal Coach Instructor at Kutandara Marimba Studio and Fort Collins Marimba Studio Professional soloist Sextraordinary Coaching, LLC is a certified Safe Space and part of the Safe Space Alliance. To learn more about what that means, click here . "Allison has helped me understand my sexuality and answered all my weird, embarrassing, strange, and freaky questions. I never once felt weird, embarrassed, strange, or like a freak." S.I.* *Initials have been changed to protect identities

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