Hi folx! If you read Ask Allison #1, you know this is a space where I post questions asked to me anonymously and answer them. Thanks to those of you who've asked me questions this week! Dear Allison, What's your go-to toy recommendation and why? Looking to spice things up with my partner but not sure where to start! Sincerely, Too Many Options!!! Dear Too Many Options!!!, It sounds like you've got a good problem on your hands! I'll give you some categories to choose from, since I don't know exactly what you're looking for. Please note that I'm not sponsored by any toy company; these are curated from my experience as a coach and educator: Vibrators I love recommending CalExotic's Red Hot Spark to people with vulvas because it has many options for stimulation. Its shape can feel like a simulation of oral sex because the soft silicone tip can flick if you hold it in a certain way, or it can feel like a bullet vibrator with a very pinpointed sensation at the very tip, depending on the pressure you give behind it or the angle at which it touches the body. It has a wider base, which is good for body massage, but it is NOT safe for anal play because it doesn't have a flared base so please use this externally or vaginally ONLY. Dildos Depending on the size and shape you think you might want, Blush's Avant lineup has just about everything, and most of them are pride-colored, just for fun! They're made with a super-soft, patented silicone so they're sturdy, body-safe, and durable. They fit into most harnesses if you're interested in pegging, and can feel anywhere from heavy and filling to light and tantilizing. Some mimic human penises while others don't necessarily look human at all, if you're going for a more non-binary, non-conforming (to any race, species, etc.) type of vibe. They do run a bit high on price, but they're well worth the spend and will definitely last you. Strokers This category can get a bit sticky (pun absolutely intended) because most penis-owners are pretty particular about how they like their penis to be touched. I would recommend starting with something gentle, like the Tenga Egg strokers, then ramping it up if you or your partner are into this kind of stimulation. Because strokers aren't self-lubricating like vaginas, don't try to use them without lube of some sort. Most are very easily washable, so don't be too concerned about cleanup; just be sure to over-lube and err on the side of getting too much (because you can never really have way too much) and make sure you have excellent communication between you and your partner so you or they can tell the other how things are feeling. Anal Play Similar to the dildo recommendations, I would always recommend Blush's Avant lineup. They use the same silicone to make their anal toys, which come in a variety of shapes and sizes and colors. As with the strokers, use so much lube you run out (and then go get more!!) because the anus is NOT self-lubricating and you can do some real damage and cause some real pain that really is not fun to deal with if you don't use adequate lube. The anus is very very sensitive, so make sure to go super slowly, communicate with your partner, and use tactile skills like feeling if their or your sphincter is open and ready to receive more stimulation or not. Stay away from anal play if you or your partner is experiencing hemorrhoids or rectal tears. These can not only be horribly uncomfortable but can also lead to infection. Use graduating toys that go from very small sizes to larger ones and make sure anything you're using for anal play has a flared base and looks similar to a traffic cone. Silicone, glass, or metal are good materials to look for, as they are non-porous and generally waterproof, though you should double check the label to make sure. Metal and glass toys will make the user feel more full more quickly, so keep that in mind as well. Impact Play My all-time favorite impact play toy recommendation is a flogger. Similar to a whip, this toy has a small learning curve and comes in a variety of materials and sizes. It's known for its ability to sting a little, but not leave lasting marks like bruises or scratches. I don't tend to recommend paddles because they can really hurt if not used correctly and can cause some serious damage to the body, especially bruises and broken bones (seriously, being gentle with these things really matters) and nobody wants to end up on an episode of "Sex Sent Me to the ER". Bondage I would recommend wrist or ankle restraints before handcuffs or rope, especially for beginners in this area. They're much more comfortable than metal cuffs and don't tend to leave marks. They're also pretty easy to take on and off and come in a lot of different materials, like velvet, leather, faux fur, etc. which can be a really fun addition to your intimate life and help things go from good to EXXXTRA SPICY!!! They don't usually require a key, so they're a bit less risky than handcuffs. I hope this helps you with your sexplorations! I wish you all the best luck in finding all of the toys that give you exactly what you're looking for. ~Allison

Hi folx! If you read Ask Allison #1, you know this is a space where I post questions asked to me anonymously and answer them. Thanks to those of you who've asked me questions this week! Dear Allison, I identify as a straight cis male, but I think I'm curious about trying butt stuff. What's wrong with me? Sincerely, Scared Straight Dear Scared Straight, For everyone reading, "cis" is short for "cis-gender", which means you identify with the gender and genitals you were born with. Now, let's talk about butt stuff! First of all, enjoying anal stimulation doesn't define your sexuality. Being attracted to any other gender other than the opposite cis-gender of your own gender is generally classified as being "queer". Being attracted to the same gender as you is generally considered as being "gay". There are many exceptions to this, though. The male body has something which you've probably heard of called the prostate gland. This is a walnut-sized part of the male anatomy that sits in the pelvis and can be reached (and stimulated) through the anus. Receiving touch can be really pleasurable for a lot of people who identify as men, but doesn't make them "gay" or not straight. In fact, a lot of men like stimulation on their penis as well as their prostate - it can enhance orgasm exponentially for some! So, all of this is to say that absolutely nothing is wrong with you. You were simply built with a pleasure spot that's only reachable through your bum-hole, so if you want to know what it's like to experiment with that, there's really only one way to go: up! Now, here's a word of caution on anal play: GO. SLOW. For the love of all things good (including your booty), please don't shove things up there if they don't want to go yet. And please start small. A finger wrapped in a condom works great. Then you can add another until you need to take it slower again. That leads me to... USE. LUBE. The anus, unlike the vagina, does NOT have its own lubricant and therefore is not slippery enough to provide adequate lubrication for penetration or any other kind of anal fun, for that matter. Do you and your bum a favor and get some lube, especially one that's formulated for anal play. Make sure you're using the right lube formula (like water-based) that is safe for the types of toys you're using. Remember that like degrades like, so don't use silicone-based lube on silicone toys or oil-based lube on latex condoms. Which brings me to... USE. CONDOMS. The anus, also unlike the vagina, has very thin walls and doesn't have its own self-cleaning mechanisms to defend against infections. This is just one of the other multitude of reasons it's an excellent idea to use lube, but it's an even better idea to use condoms. Condoms, when used correctly, can be up to 99% effective at preventing STIs, and some of the scariest ones at that like HIV/AIDS, HPV, and others. And, if you happen to run into a "chocolate surprise", the toys (or penis/es) you're using won't end up chocolate-flavored as well. RELAX!!! Your anus is a bundle of super-tight muscles for a very good reason. Try taking some deep breaths and play with the external parts before trying to insert anything. Your body needs to know that that kind of touch is safe and, if you want to go further, welcomed (eventually). Just take your time and try not to set expectations for yourself, or a partner, if you're not flying solo. Do not ever. EVER. EVER!!!! use toys without a "flared" base. They CAN and WILL get sucked into your body and you will have to take a very embarrassing trip to the ER to get them removed very uncomfortably, both emotionally and physically. Just stick to toys that are meant to go up there and you'll be fine, as long as they're made of body-safe material like silicone, metal, or glass. Heavy = full. Toys that are made of metal or glass will make you feel more full more quickly, so especially take it slower with these guys and don't ever forget your lube! Lube way more than you think, too. Get it everywhere. I hope this information has been helpful! As always, feel free to get in touch with me with any questions. Good luck with your sexpeditions! ~Allison

Hey, y'all! If you missed out on the last one, this is your reminder to get tickets for my workshop on September 27th, 2024! Find all the details below! When: September 27th, 2024, time TBD Where: Mystique Lingerie 2700 S College Ave Suite 165 Fort Collins, CO 80525 What it's about: This workshop will cover what to do when you feel like the spark you had isn't quite as strong. Feeling like a spark has dwindled is an extraordinarily common challenge, and not a lot of folx know where to turn when it starts to happen because it can feel really overwhelming and scary, especially if you've been in a long-term relationship/marriage and noticed things just aren't quite as spicy as they once were. We'll learn about some different communication tactics to help get some convos facilitated, talk about some tips and tricks to use at home (hint: it involves getting naked together!), and do some brief anatomy lessons to make sure you're reaching all the right places when you go spelunking. As with all of my workshops, this is a safe space where anyone of all genders, ethnicities, ages, backgrounds, races, relationship statuses, and cultures can come together and learn about their sexualities as they pertain to the kink world. If you are under 16 years old, please bring an adult with you who will act as your parent or guardian. Here's a link to get tickets! https://www.mystiquelingeriefoco.com/products/rediscovering-desire-pleasure If you have any questions, please reach out to me! I hope to see you all there! ~Allison

Allison graduated from Colorado State University with a B.S. in Psychology and a B.A. in Ethnic Studies. Along the way, she found her passion in sex coaching through a peer education group and discovered the impact a sex-positive conversation can have. Learning By Heart I graduated from Colorado State University (CSU) with a B.S. in Psychology and a B.A. in Ethnic Studies. Along the way, I encountered a peer education group called Creating Respect, Educating Wellness (by and for) Students (or CREWS) and found my true passion for helping others discover how they can be less intimidated about talking about, engaging in, or learning about sexual activities. I became a certified peer educator through a program offered at CSU and I have been talking with students about safer sex ever since! Learn More About My Passion and Background That's cool, but what other hobbies & passions do you have? Although talking about sex and pleasure is my ultimate passion, I have multiple hobbies that keep my life balance in check. These include (but are not limited to) socializing with any dogs, particularly my own, hiking, being in nature, knitting, singing, cooking, learning new languages, and traveling. I lived in Switzerland for a year when I was 5 and I frequent the land of bread, wine, and cheese every year to be with friends and family and enjoy life’s simpler pleasures such as floating down the Rhein River on a hot summer day and meditating on the complexities of a crusty bread or salty cheese. Chocolate is my one, true love and I find myself never having enough, though I buy skads with every visit to the store. Navigating through my ADHD led me to discover that knitting holds multiple benefits for me, including stress relief, a way to keep movement in my body when paying attention (it got me through 95% of my college courses!) and allows me to focus when my mind wants to wander. It's something I love to do in my free time as well, and I intend to keep teaching friends and family how to create knitted wonders the same way my grandmother taught me when I was 8 years old, sitting on her lap, trying not to stab myself repeatedly with the needles. Music has also always been a passion of mine - I have a professional music career as a soloist as well as a small vocal coaching studio, and I taught classes at the Community College of Aurora as well. I found my love for Zimbabwean music when I was 7, and haven't put down the marimba mallets or hosho (traditional shakers) yet! It All Started When... At 2 years old, I asked my mother what a tampon was, allowing my curiosity to guide me. I found my proclivity through my undergraduate years, one day realizing how many friends of mine had come to me for sex advice. When I became a part of the CREWS family, it solidified my inkling that I needed to be in an environment where I could talk with others about their lives as sexual beings. My propensity to educate and myth-bust came from an extremely personal and traumatic situation in which I found out how little I had been educated in my current social climate around sex and sexuality. I was scared, had no idea where to turn for resources or the help I needed, and I wondered how many others had felt this same way. From that day on, I decided I never wanted anyone to ever feel the fear I felt from a lack of knowledge and conversation and committed myself to a future of helping educate as many as possible so that fear wouldn't exist anymore - only facts and resources. Certifications Public Health Bachelor's of Science, Psychology - Colorado State University Bachelor's of Arts, Ethnic Studies - Colorado State University Peer Educator Certification - Colorado State University via NASPA Music Instructor at Community College of Aurora Vocal Coach Instructor at Kutandara Marimba Studio and Fort Collins Marimba Studio Professional soloist Sextraordinary Coaching, LLC is a certified Safe Space and part of the Safe Space Alliance. To learn more about what that means, click here . "Allison has helped me understand my sexuality and answered all my weird, embarrassing, strange, and freaky questions. I never once felt weird, embarrassed, strange, or like a freak." S.I.* *Initials have been changed to protect identities

Looking for a way to change your sex life? Look no further! Become Sextraordinary and start getting sex coaching today! To Read While You Eat Chocolate Thank you for taking the time to click through my site! I hope you're well on your way to learning about yourself already. If you haven't yet, be sure to get in touch either using the tabs above or the message center at the bottom of the page, on any page. You can also email me and call me, if that's easier for you. So, what are you waiting for? Become Sextraordinary! Gaining your trust and building a relationship with you is my first and highest priority, always. I will never share your information, session topics, blah blah blah with anyone. If you do want me to share something we have discussed, I will get written and verbal permission from you beforehand. Confidentiality is vital to ensuring our space is a safe one and I always want you to feel like you can tell me anything. I do not have mandatory reporting. If there comes a time when I feel like my services aren’t serving you best, I will refer you to someone I trust who I believe can offer you what you’re looking for. I am not a medical doctor and I cannot diagnose or treat medical issues, nor can I diagnose, prescribe medications for, or treat psychological issues. If we decide that you’re needing help I cannot offer, I will refer you to someone I trust who I believe can help you in those ways. Call 303-667-3596 Email allisonkeller.j@gmail.com Follow

Become Sextraordinary! Find your magic with one-on-one sex coaching, couples coaching, and workshops, and more! Hi, I'm Allison. I'm so excited you're here! Scroll down! Click Here to Learn About Free Sessions! About Me Allison Keller, B.S., B.A. She/her/hers Accepting, welcoming, passionate I help people learn about how they can have the best sex possible for them, connect with partners, and feel their best through education and pleasure-centered somatic work. I became a coach because I live for my “Ah-Ha!” moments and I want everyone to be able to experience them. Some people are still finding the courage and confidence to be capable of bringing those moments to fruition. And some people give up entirely on allowing themselves to find actualization and quit before they can discover the magic that inherently lives inside them, waiting to be ignited. I want to change that! That's why I want to accompany people on their journey to ignition and discovery, help to tackle challenges, and find their magic. I am inherently open-minded, accepting, non-judgemental, optimistic, and always ready to be challenged. I hold myself to the highest standards of honesty and accountability as core moral values and I strive to become the best version of myself every single day. I let the positivity and joie de vivre guide me and set the pattern for my work as a coach. About Me Whether you’re here to discover parts of yourself, discover more magic in your relationships, metamorphose your sex life, discover more passion, love yourself and your body, or to discover the magic of sex toys and different kinds of sex, or anything else, you’ve come to the right place. Find and embrace your sexy self. Become magical. Become Sextraordinary! Sin-spirations As a peer educator through a volunteer organization called CREWS, I have discovered my passion for sex education that focuses on non-judgemental, fact-based, peer-to-peer conversations and the impact a healthy and safe sex life can have, especially for youth. If you want to learn more about how I found my passion in sex coaching, check out the About tab at the top of the page. Learn More About Allison A Little Bit of (Cunni)Lingo Sex -A term used to describe a sexual act such as intercourse, fellatio, and even masturbation. In the common English vernacular, “sex” is often referring to sexual intercourse, where one person inserts a penis into a vagina or anus. I want to broaden the way we think about sex, so I use the term much more liberally and to describe the many forms of sexual intimacy and pleasure humans can experience. On this site, in conversations, and in workshops, you will hear me using words you may be unfamiliar with. There is a small dictionary below that will explain these words and their definitions. I use a variety of terms because I want everyone to feel accepted, no matter what they look, feel like, or identify as. Erotic -A term used to describe sensations that bring joy and pleasure, not inherently sexual in nature. Another common English vernacular usage of this word is in terms of something that is sexual or pornographic. “Erotic” can actually mean something that brings pleasure to the senses, so I want to use it as such and begin to de-sexualize the way we think about pleasure. Pleasure-centered somatic work -I center my work around the experience of pleasure, meaning the sensation of enjoyment or gratification. Somatic refers to the body, and I center my work around bringing the most pleasure to the whole body as much as possible. Vulva -A term used to describe all of the external female genitalia (labia majora and minora or lips, clitoris, and opening of the vagina). Note that this is distinctly a different part of the body than the vagina itself, a common linguistic mistake. Services One-on-One Sessions A one-hour session with just me and you where we talk about all things sex, sexuality, etc. and get you where you want to be. These sessions do not include nudity or sexual acts. Workshops Click Here to See Upcoming Workshops! Group-based learning conversations based around a specific topic. All workshops are open to everyone, regardless of gender expression, gender identity, gender assigned at birth, sexual orientation, race, ethnicity, or religious background. All workshops are open to all ages - I recommend youngsters come along as well, at parent/guardian discretion. Workshops do not include any nudity or sexual acts. 101s Toys 101 Bondage 101 Communication 101 Safer Sex 101 Sextracurricular Activities Mindful Sex Workshop Pleasure-Focused Sex Workshop Orgasm Du Jour Workshop Sexercises Yoga For Sex Couples Sessions A one-hour session with me, you, and your partner(s) where we talk about all things sex, sexuality, etc. and get you all where you want to be. These sessions do not include nudity or sexual acts. Parties If you’re looking for a sexy spice to add to your party, give me a call! For one to two hours, I’ll come to your party with my Bag O’ Goodies (hint: there’s A LOT of sex toys in there!) and you and your party-goers can sit back, relax, and learn a bit more about those weird things you’ve been seeing on Instagram but have no idea how they work. Like my workshops, these events are designed to be a hands-on learning experience where you get to touch and interact with all different types of toys. I offer Bags O’ Goodies for people with vulvas, people with penises, or a mix - just indicate which Bag O’ Goodies you want to show up and I’ll make it happen! Looking for something other than toys at your party? Look no further! If you’d prefer, I can bring my other Bag O’ Goodies (hint: there’s A LOT of kinky stuff in there!) full of handcuffs, ropes, chains, blindfolds, whips, paddles, riding crops, etc. that you can play with and learn all about how to whip yourself and/or partner(s) into shape for the experience of your life! Book a Session! Non-Comprehensive List of Services Services Finding pleasure (Re)Discovering and increasing desire Learning about your body and its functions Learning about your sexuality Healing from injury, procedures, or illnesses Prostatectomy Giving birth Vaginismus Vasectomy Hysterectomy Others Education about sex toys, kinks, bondage, etc. De-stigmatizing sex, sexuality, and intimacy Soon-to-be-married and newly wed sex coaching Teen/tween sex and sexuality coaching and education Intersex, asexual, gay, bisexual, pansexual, transgender (LGBTQIA+) topics, education, and coaching And so much more! "Allison is so professional yet engaging. She made me feel immediately comfortable discussing sensitive topics. I've learned so much from our sessions!" ~J.J. "I came to Allison for coaching around performance anxiety and ended up meeting my goals in not just my sexual life but in a multitude of other areas as well! Her holistic approach really works for me and I would absolutely recommend it for anyone looking to grow within themselves as well as within their relationships." ~F.T. Leave Me a Google Review! “The day you were born, your body was a cause for celebration, for love without condition, and that’s just as true today as it was then.” Emily Nagoski, Ph.D. Let's Talk